20’s are a funny one, aren’t they? It’s the age that the characters those romance and adventure novels that you’ve been reading, are galavanting around the world, WHILE simultaneously being the age where you’re supposed to have a sparkly career that requires you to wear stilettos on a daily basis and be planning a 10 year plan to have 3 kids and attend weekly yoga classes. Hands up if ya have them…..
The thing is, it’s not really any of these things, is it? For me, at the ripe old age of 23, adulting is a pretty hilarious balance of work, play, chapel renovating and trying to remember not to head out of the house wearing that pair of jeans that have a rip the size of a small planet in them.
Structure and wiggle room.
Structure is the key to everything. Structure your day, give structure to your bank accounts, even structure your wardrobe. Get your shit together (a little bit where you can, at least). Having structure will lead you to your goals with focus and drive. In other words, find a happy medium between going with the flow, and being borderline robotic. Sounds achievable right?
Say ‘see ya later’ to judgment.
There’s no room for judgement in your life. Don’t judge yourself, other people, places or things. Judgment only leads to negative energy, and thats not the kind of energy you want in your life. Stop advising, unless somebody asks for it- let them make their own mistakes and allow yourself to make your own. No-one is scoring you on life, you school exam days are over and there’s no ‘next step’ other than living your life to the fullest, happiest and the best of your ability to reach your goals.
Ask yourself if it makes you feel good when you pass judgment on others? No, it doesn’t! It leads to bitchiness, anger and a circle of self disappointment. In the words of Elsa; Let it go.
It’s ok to admit that things are changing in your life, and the lives of those around you. Change is good. Some of the biggest changes are friendships, priorities, goals, and habits. ALL of these are ok, and the sooner you hop on board the ever moving change train you’ll be much happier for yourself, and for others.
So, even if the navigation through our 20’s is clumsy, incredibly ungraceful and, frankly, a bit of a whirlwind; let’s walk with those we enjoy being around and always remember that laughter is the best medicine.