I’m hoping that this, right here, is the start of more meaningful and personal posts on thehoneyblonde. Lets talk about things that really matter to us, things that get us down and pick us up.
Whether you’re an over-thinker, worry-wort or lack a bit of self-confidence, then you’ve probably experienced that horrible, churning-in-the-pit-of-your-stomach feeling of dread when you just can’t let something go. I am holding my hands up right now and admitting that i’ve had that feeling plenty of time and for some reason once I start worrying about something I really struggle to let it go.
HOWEVER, the feeling does pass. Now, whether this is due to the endless Pinterest scrolling for inspirational quotes or my endless ranting to Adam until I feel totally chilled, who knows…
Put it in perspective….
There is ALWAYS somebody that will tell you to ‘put it in perspective’ when you’ve made a mistake or really cant drop something, and its usually the last thing you want to hear at the time, but it really is 100% true.
Ask yourself if you’re going to remember this moment in 2 months, 2 years..even 2 hours? if the answer is no, then girl, you’ve got to move on.
Try your damn hardest to keep things in perspective and see the bigger picture when you start having these little moments, simply because they are probably NOT worth your thoughts and worries.
If you’re struggling, remember this quote: ‘worrying will not take away tomorrows troubles, it will only take away todays peace’– Randy Armstrong
Are you worrying about something that is out of your power?
Sometimes its important to ask yourself this question, and instead of spending your time fixated on that one niggling thing in the back of your mind, do something productive! Spend your time doing something thats going to lead to something GOOD.
The future is not written, the world is not out to get you and sometimes you have to just let the chips fall where they may.
Worrying about something out of your control is like worrying about the weather; you could worry all day long but that won’t change whether its a glorious sunshiney day or stormy skies ahead. Learn to dance in the rain.
Stop. Breath. Calm.
Don’t go full speed into a raging panic about something, however big or little it might be. Take a moment and close your eyes. Take deep breaths, calm your breathing. Once you are calm, then you’ll know what to do.
What are you afraid of?
There is no denying that these moments of panic and worry are completely awful, but maybe its time to think about what it actually is that you are afraid of?
Maybe something has gone wrong at work and you’re in a pickle of worry, take the time to identify what your fear is. Is it that you’ll lose your dream job? Is it that you’ll let somebody down? Is it that you’ll lose money because of it?
Once you’ve identified these moments of worry, you can begin to turn them around and do something about it!
Don’t think to much
Don’t think to much, or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. I think it’s important to differentiate between real problems and the problems that we’ve made up in our heads, because sometimes the line can become a little hazy.
Its easy to convince yourself that what you are thinking is real, but the majority of the time its our clever, little brain playing tricks on us. Try to let a situation just BE, because it will be.
Remember that thing about the weather, well overthinking something is like walking around with a sunhat on, an umbrella up, sunglasses on and a giant puffa jacket all at the same time, just incase: pointless and a little bit silly.
What do you do when you’re filled with worry?
I’d love to hear if you have enjoyed reading this post, and also what you do in these kinds of situations. Its great to share with each other, you never know who you might help in the process.
With love, x