Lets talk about perfectionism…

Most people who know me will know how much of a sucker I am for anything remotely inspirational, hopeful and anything that encourages self belief and love.

I few nights ago, one of my best friends sent me a few screenshots of a book to me. It was like Christmas for Kate. I read it and felt like fist pumping in the air because I just agreed with everything it said. It was one of those pieces of writing that make you stop and think YES.

The piece was from a book called ‘The Gifts Of Imperfection’ by Brene Brown, in which she talks about letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we are and improving ourselves the right way.

I think we are all perfectionists to an extent. Surely its part of our human nature to want to be perfect in some way or other? We want to look perfect, live perfectly, act perfectly. We want to be the perfect girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, parents, students, teachers, bankers, lawyers. We want to design the perfect house, capture the perfect picture, create the perfect outfit. BUT, (you could sense there was a but coming there), deep down we all know that perfect doesn’t exist.

‘Perfect is an unatainable goal’

The idea of perfect is completely down to perception, not to mention that its always changing in this world of social media and media. I can remember about 8 years ago when everyone was dying their hair red because Rhianna looked totally perfect. Now, i’m pretty sure so many of us will have been searching Asos for at least one of of Lily James outfits from Mamma Mia: Here We Go Again. Wasn’t it only a year ago when everyone started contouring because of Kim K?

There is nothing wrong with doing these things, nothing at all, but please please PLEASE do not suggest yourself imperfect if you don’t look like another beautiful human, don’t have the tea on the table for 6pm sharp everyday or live your life to an Abba soundtrack. You are YOU and we should be striving to be ourselves rather than the myth of ‘perfect’.

‘Perfectionism is not the same as striving to be your best’

‘perfectionism is not self improvement’

I love reading quotes on Pinterest about loving ourselves and last week I read one of my favourites to date: ‘she woke up every morning with the option of being anyone she wished. How beautiful it was that she always chose herself”- Tyler Kent Ward. 

It can be hard learning to love yourself and it can be hard not to compare ourself to someone else, but I think it can be done. A little bit at a time we can learn to embrace all the things about us that makes you think ‘Yep, thats me’. We can choose to do something because we WANT to do it, we can wear clothes that make us feel CONFIDENT rather than whats in fashion, we can treat people with all the kindness that they deserve and aim for humility, love and happiness rather than perfection.


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