YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
Last night, after a beautiful day in the sun with family, me and Ad were snugged up on the sofa watching football (well, Ad was watching football, meanwhile I was half snoozing). I was scrolling through instagram and saw that somebody had posted a picture of the cleverest little poem. Now, i’m not normally a poem kinda gal but I absolutely LOVED this- I even made Ad read it too.
I’m very ugly
So don’t try to convince me that
I am a very beautiful person
Because at the end of the day
I hate myself in every single way
And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying
There is beauty inside of me that matters
So rest assured I will remind myself
That I am a worthless, terrible person
And nothing you say will make me believe
I still deserve love
Because no matter what
I am not good enough to be loved
And I am in no position to believe that
Beauty does exist within me
Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think
Am I as ugly as people say?
(now read bottom up).
It got me thinking about how a lot of us are guilty of being too harsh on ourselves. We see ourselves and instantly pick out what we don’t like about us when, really, we should be spotting something positive and complimenting ourselves. Be it looking in the mirror, seeing a photo of ourselves or even feeling out of place somewhere, its so easy to automatically start criticising ourselves. Now, by no means should we be saying ‘OMG, I look the best on this photo’ because absolutely everybody has their own beauty, but it is about time we stopped pulling our own confidence down and start learning to REALLY love ourselves.
‘PRETTY UGLY’- Abdullah Shoauib
If you read this poem, you can probably relate on some level. Im sure at some point, we have all been guilty of feeling like we aren’t good enough because, at the end of the day, its natural for us to strive higher and reach for more in most aspects of our life- so why wouldn’t think that about ourselves too? Now if you haven’t already, read it from the bottom upwards and see how the rearrangement of the words can show us the truth- how we speak to ourselves IS important.
Actually, when you take a minute to really think about it, we wouldn’t dream of speaking to any other being the way that we can sometimes speak to our own mind and body. Ask yourself these questions: Would you shoot nasty comments at your family or friends? Would you speak in an aggressive, mean tone to your pets? Would you be rude to strangers or clients at work? NO, most of us wouldn’t do any of these things. So, why do we find it acceptable to talk to ourselves in all of these ways?
Have a go.
Lets give this a little go. Pick a photo of yourself from your phone or head to the mirror and take a second to look at yourself. Whose voice comes to your head first? If its that nasty little girl at the back of your head, telling you that your arms look to chubby and that your smile is wonky then IGNORE HER! Stop her negative thoughts mid sentence because there is no room here to let your inner critic take over. She has been bringing you down and it’s time she stopped.
Its time to listen harder, listen to the real you. The you that has a smile creeping onto your face. This voice is going to make you smile, laugh, celebrate your own beauty and be proud of yourself. She will be saying something like ‘you look so happy in this’ ‘your eyes are sparkling’ ‘your hair looks lovely’ or ‘you radiate beauty and light today’. You might not believe her at first and thats ok, but she will always be there with words to inspire confidence and love.
Keep looking at that photo and pick out 3 good things that you like about it. Go on, I dare you.
Self love is not selfish, it is simply respect for the past, present and future you and you deserve it. So tell yourself something great today and for everyday to come.