Friendships are always changing as we go through life, whether you’re in school, college, or you’re in your 20’s to 70’s; there are always going to be changes in friendships. It’s inevitable that some will simply drift away, some will blow up in arguments and ,all the while, new people will enter your life under different circumstances. But, the one thing that remains is that it’s always hard to come to terms with a friendship moving on, changing or being lost, it’s hard to embrace change to something that is so familiar.
Things to ask yourself when you feel a friendship changing…
- Does it feel like a chore to meet up?
- Do you have plenty to chat about?
- Are you co dependent?
- Do they bring you joy?
- Do you feel like your friend is competing with you?
- Are you competing with your friend?
- Are you truly happy for your friend?
- Is your friend truly happy for you?
- Is this friendship toxic?
- Do they ask you how you are?
- Do they make you feel like a good person?
- Do you like the person you are with them?
- Do you like the person the have become around you?
Try to save your friendship, be honest and talk together. After all, you were friends for a reason and deep down those qualities might still be there. A friendship is a 2 lane country road; it needs effort from both parties, and even though you might be traveling at different speeds, the view should be great.
Friendships are going to change, and that is absolutely ok and normal. We have left behind that stage of life where it got bitchy when you spent too much time with your boyfriend, or a grudge would be held because you had to work on a weekend; all our lives are changing and its only natural that the people in our lives will change too.
Surround yourself with people who make you happy, people you are happy for, people who aren’t in competition with you, friendships with no jealousy between them, friendships that feel natural and easy. Surround yourself with the people that you truly love.